How To Build Lasting Love In Your Marriage

Do you want to have lasting love in your marriage? This is surely the wish of many Christian couples, yet many of their relationships are struggling or collapsing. This is not God’s desire for any of his children. This article aims to enlighten you on how to build lasting love in your marriage.

Love suffers a lot and is kind; love does not envy; love does not boast, it is not puffed up; he does not behave rudely, does not seek his own, does not get irritated, does not think badly; He does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; he supports everything, he believes everything, he expects everything, he supports everything. Love never fails. But if there are prophecies, they will fail … – I Corinthians 13: 4-8 (NKJV).

Marriage is a spiritual institution and therefore it should not be contracted or followed in the flesh, it needs God’s help. Marriage is more than a mere “YES, I ACCEPT”, although it is part of the beginning. It is the union of a woman and a man in spirit, soul and body. That is why if you have sex, which is that of marriage, with a whore you become one with her and you reap the consequences of it, the wrath of God.

For one to have lasting love in marriage, he must know LOVE itself. God is love (I John 4: 8)! How much you know him determines how long your love for your spouse will last. Your love for God determines how much you will love your spouse. I am not talking about Eros (Body love or sexual desire) or Philia (Brotherly love), although you do need them in marriage. I’m talking about agape love if lasting love is what you want to have in your marriage. You need to love your spouse with the love of God. It will always stand the test of time. Others may fail but not agape love.

God’s kind of love

The scriptures in 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8 give a description of what God’s love is. This is how to love your spouse, without conditions. This is how Jesus loved us, that while we were still sinners, he died for us. God expects us to love our spouses as Jesus loves us. You must love him, not because he or she loves you, but essentially because you love God and want to please him. Otherwise, if you ever think that your spouse no longer loves you, you may stop loving them.

Whats Next?

In marriage, it is not about what you can get from your spouse or what he or she can give you; it’s about what it can give you. Marriage is about what you can contribute to your life. God thought of marriage and instituted it because he felt that something was lacking in Adam and made him a help meet. Therefore, in marriage, you must make up for what your spouse lacks. You must not make him or her make up for what you lack; That shouldn’t be your focus. For you to have lasting love, you must take care of your own share of responsibility and believe that God will help your spouse to do his or her own share.

The truth is that if you depend on your spouse to be happy, you will be in trouble. He or she does not have the ability to do that. Your happiness and joy are in God. If He onlyfans free trialĀ 
fulfills it through his husband or wife, that’s great. But you must choose to depend solely on God for everything in your marriage. Choose to please God all the time and you will always please your spouse, and he or she will reciprocate with you. Jesus, wanting to please God the Father, was always a blessing for the people.

Also, you cannot love and not give. You can give without loving, but there is no way you can love and not give: your time, energy and resources. To give is to live. God showed what it means to love by giving His only Son and there is nothing else He will not give you. Therefore, learn to give the best of yourself and everything to your spouse.